What's under the rug?

 "Be who you are and say what you feel because 

those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." 

 -- Dr. Seuss

While it's always good to "be who you are" and to "say what you feel," each of those sentiments must be tempered with good judgment and a certain amount of sensitivity.  If everyone simply blurted out exactly what was on their mind, there would be no end to misunderstandings and hurt feelings.  


It's always good to know that there are people  who love us no matter what.  I believe those are the ones Dr. Seuss was referring to as "those who matter." 


However, all too often we avoid a difficult conversation that really SHOULD happen to protect ourselves from an uncomfortable situation, sweeping things under the proverbial "rug" so as to avoid having to see the situation for what it has become.  It's a fine line, and a difficult one to cross....or NOT!

The problem with "sweeping things under the rug" is that eventually, there are so many "things" under the rug, we end up "tripping ourselves" over our very own mountain of debris that has built up under that rug! It is impossible to move forward with your plans and to work on your dreams and goals if you are constantly picking yourself up after falling down because you've been "tripped up" again by an issue you've not been able to face.


Whether it's an apology owed to someone, or you feel there's someone who you need to forgive, it's time to consider dealing with the issue. It may be an  annoyance that you've decided to accept and "live with" yet it angers you every time you think of it.  If that's the case, it's very dangerous to "sweep it back under the rug" and tell yourself it's just not worth facing.  If it's worth the effort of hiding it, you can be assured it's worth the effort it will take to leave it out, think about it, and talk it over with someone!


Yes, there's truth in Dr. Seuss' statement, but there's also truth in saying that there are people involved in your life, whether personally or professionally, who do mind...and they matter.


Have a good week!


Blessings,
Sharon